If you are feeling overwhelmed or stuck in your life situation right now and you are unsure of the next steps to take, than this one’s for you.
First of all, I would like to begin by normalizing this. Everyone feels like this from time to time. I personally believe it is necessary for our growth, if we didn’t feel dissatisfied with our circumstances at some point in our lives, then we probably wouldn’t try to do anything different. It’s how we level up, how we move forward.
Think about the worlds greatest inventions, they were created from necessity, because somebody was not satisfied with their current situation and thought that it could be improved, they imagined how it would happen and they took action to bring it to reality. This is how we have electricity in our homes, how we can travel the world in hours, and how we can receive a text message in seconds. It all started from dissatisfaction and dreaming of something better.
Sometimes we’re stuck and we don’t even know it. This is the “it’s good enough phase”. When things are not too bad, they are tolerable, and yet we know that they could be better. This can be the worst situation because it’s comfortable and when things are comfortable we are less likely to change.
Change can happen instantly and it comes from the feeling of “I can’t take this one second longer”, the proverbial rock bottom. But it doesn’t have to get to this point before you take action.
Time is our greatest resource, we can never get it back and it is limited. If you don’t do something about it now you will look back when you are 80 years old and think “I should have done that sooner.” You will imagine what could have been if you had only listened to your inner voice when the bells for change first started ringing. If this resonates with you then please take this as your sign that it’s time to start the ”unsticking process”.
So where do you start? It’s actually easier than you may think!!!
First of all, you want to start getting clear about what you really want. Most people, when asked to get specific about what they want, don’t have a clear answer. They haven‘t taken the time to actually visualize and imagine what they want for their future. Or they have but it’s been based on what they believe others expect them to do, it’s not really what they want for their lives.
So now is the time to start imagining that brighter further, the one where you are completely fulfilled. It’s ok, go ahead, even if there’s a part of you that believes it’s impossible. This is play time, this is follow your heart, not your head, time and it’s not about what you believe is possible for you, it’s about what you want to believe is possible for you. There’s a big difference.
Alcoholics Anonymous has a great quote, from Dr. Amy Johnson, that they live by:
Your best thinking got you here.
If you were to continue with the same mindset and beliefs going into your future, nothing will change, you cannot do better than your current level of thinking. PERIOD. Which is why you have to let go of what you believe is possible and start to dream.
This is where it gets fun, to get to a new level of thinking and believing, you need to ask yourself some really great questions, ones that open up your mind to new ideas, new possibilities.
The best way to do this on your own is to start journaling. When you write, you activate a different part of your mind, a more creative part, where new solutions can come forth. It is completely different than simply pondering. You can find some great questions through a google search or on Pinterest.
For some starter questions check out my Instagram story “Clarity Questions to Get You Unstuck” found under the Clarity Highlight @stephanierussellcoach
The second suggestion to help you get unstuck is to look for people who’ve done what you want to do (Or similar). You want to find a mentor, this could be someone you know or it could be a celebrity or someone from history. This person must represent hope for you, that what you want to achieve is possible, because it is.
If you can imagine it, you can achieve it. If you can dream it, you can become it.
Bonus if you can find more than one person. You want to then remind yourself everyday of what this person did (preferably every morning) and allow it to create excited and inspired feels in you. Hope is the most important emotion to illicit change.
The last tip I’d like to share (for now) on how to help you get unstuck and move into the life your truly desire is to hire a coach. I know, I’m biased but I am a coach because a coach helped change my life.
When I was in my twenties, I felt trapped in an emotionally abusive relationship. I believed that no other man would love me like he loved me, that it was my job to “fix” him and that because I said ”I love you”, that meant “I’m committed to you forever because love doesn’t abandon”. It was this thinking that kept me stuck for 8 years!!! Luckily I took a personal development course from a coach that helped me begin a new way of thinking and helped me envision a brighter future. I went on to get further coaching from him and it has initiated big changes in my life. I’ve had many other coaches since and will continue to hire them because in the coaching world we have a saying:
You can’t paint the chair you’re sitting in.
Basically, we all have blind spots that can only be pointed out by others. And, believe me, that is best left to a professional, one who is there for your highest good…not Becky-Sue who you swear gets off on telling you that you have food in your teeth, only after its been there for 10 minutes and you’ve talked to 6 different people…
If you’re not sure where to start with hiring a coach, first off, look for one who specializes in what you need, for instance, if you need to lose weight, a nutrition coach or a personal fitness coach would be best, if its about your business, a business coach would do well for you. Or, if you’d like help with confidence and clarity then maybe I’m your woman 🙋♀️.
Most have complimentary consultations where you can get to know each other and see if they are the right fit for you.
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I hope this puts a little fire in your belly and starts the process of change for you. In order to get unstuck, you have to have a willingness to do something different and to open yourself up to new ideas. Without this, you are bound to keep living your current circumstances, same shit different day, forever.
Feel free to reach out, I have many different packages, courses and clarity tools at all different price points and time commitments. I also have a lot of talented friends in many different coaching niches if my coaching is not the right fit, I want to see no human stuck.